In the end it was my first wedding
Wedding photography... Wait what ? did I say that I'm so awesome now to photoshoot weddings now ?
NO
It all started a year ago when I was passing a rotation in the Ear Nose Throat department. There I met amazing people : Charbel, Chadi, Nadim, Evana; those were the residents from where the impact of what I'm about to tell was the biggest. Not to forget the amazing ENT surgeons : W. Abou Hamad, E. Eter, S. Rassi, N. Matar, A. Haddad, B. Tabchy; those make miracles and save lives (literally).
At first when I joined the team, I was like an out-of-the-context guy. The team follows a strict hiarchy, strict timing, strict behavior, strict work, strict almost everything... they love order. I'm not saying I have a problem with it, I'm just saying that I have a problem following the order. At 7 am in the morning when nobody was in the mood to talk even about the weather, well for me I could talk about anything and they really find it irritating and disrespectful. So I held my horses for a while.
In short because of my behavior their first impression was that I'm a hippie who is passing by to have some fun and laughter.
You should then look at their jaws when I presented my first presentation and then the second (Anatomy studies).
That was one of those moments where I turn and think that respect is earned, it is not inherited nor bought.
After that Charbel (the senior resident) approached me and had a chat with me for like an hour. He really liked my photography think and was amazed on how much I know about the subject. Then He always stressed on how important is the first impression, the self image. New people, new faces, they all *at first* are shallow, they all don't have time, they all have important stuff to do. So at first you gotta give a sample of what is best of you and then let the relation stream across its natural pathway. Being a wildcard among people like you is a real advantage, use it wisely. In the end people have to spare some time with you because they just want to know how you simply function and what happened with me.
After passing this rotation my attitude towards new people changed and I didn't get too much frustrated in the beginning because I always stay hopeful and positive. Because the wrong man in the wrong place can make all the difference in the world *not a mistype*
So the wedding ?
Skipping months after my rotation, we became not only colleagues but also friends. We created a circle called the ENT leftovers were the members are old new colleagues who passed the same rotation. We try to meet and have some good quality times. That circle of friends is the most amazing because it joins people of different backgrounds and with this mix it makes my time with them very fruitful.
In the end Charbel invited all of us to the wedding and that was my first wedding I attended by personal acceptance. It was at a lovely church in the middle of Beirut and then the actual soirée was at Mir Amin (beit el Din).
What I wanted to point out is that your photography technique will drastically differ if you are close friends with the subject you're photographing. That emotional bond is priceless between you and your subject because it translates in your exposures. Getting to know the couple before the wedding was a huge game changer for me. I was never particularly vibrant in portrait photography, but at this wedding I had some shots that even the professional photographer of the wedding hadn't made. In fact the couple ended up engraving my photographs into their lives by printing them and putting them in canvases in their home in France.
So if I will have to face this situation again but with a couple that I don't know, well I don't really know how to communicate the idea but I need to know the couple and at least have a chat with them weeks before the D-Day. It will just transform your work, it will make it much easier. The exposures will reveal themselves because you will try harder.
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Charbel and Victoire, the lovely couple |
So the gear I used wasn't fancy at all, my Nikon D5000 and all the night I used my telephoto lens the nikkor 55-200mm VR. That night I learned that I have at last reached the limits of my camera because of its low light capabilities. My D5000 was so noisy without Noise reduction and the photos as you can see after treatment were like painted so I end it up making the whole album black and white. With B&W the soul, the power, the emotion of each moment were more potent and it was absolutely fascinating because the couple never expected to see black and white photographs.
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before their first dance |
With the telephoto lens, I was able to capture the moment without interfering so basically the couple weren't aware of my snooping around. Like in this photograph on the right, in fact in front of them was this huge and massive entertainment/show called the "zaffeh" it is like a tradition in Lebanon on every wedding, it is the Lebanese Wedding Entrance. So here in the photograph it seems that they really weren't sure about the hole idea, Charbel who is Lebanese loves fattouch not tabbouleh and he do not really like the zaffeh thing but Victoire is french and she never saw/experimented the whole shebang hence this nervous smile, on both of them.
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The zaffeh |
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Her shadow really loves the smell of the flowers |
Here was the beginning of the zaffeh, when the groom and the bride are brought to stage. Well the challenge of this photograph was the distance and low shutter speed. Because she was on heels I was able to capture the moment when she freezes before she take another step. With that and a little help from the overhead projector I later found out that her shadow really loved the flowers and didn't accept to let go of them. What I like in this photo is the harmonious position of all the elements inside one frame, from the foreground to the background which merge flawlessly without creating distraction from the main subject who is Victoire.
Then came the dance, there is not much to tell, any photographer would have taken those....
But there is such moments where it is difficult to decide on when to press the shutter like the photograph below, each position of her eyelashes even her hand would tell a different story...
Same goes here, in the photo bellow you could see his face but only guess hers. That leaves a great memory for the couple alone to enjoy and an enigma for the others. Not much of an enigma but still I granted you the power of imagining the moments thus bringing it to life...
Now they are really happy, no more nervous smiles...
In this photograph bellow I wanted to snap the intense moment of their dancing focusing on their hands alone... It summarizes a lot of the action but THIS is what I love about photography over videos, you got to REALLY live those moments because your activating your deepest brain matter, you only need a spark provided by photographs like these.
In the end it was a great experience and I thank you both for inviting me into the beginning of your story , the story of Victoire and Charbel.
With this experience I discovered a side that was practically hidden in me, I was really emotional that day and shed some tears because those people really meant something for me...and I really liked it.
I am writing only now because I miss the couple and hope because of this blogpost they will respond and return to Lebanon just for a couple of days...pretty please.
The Chadded or Vlad or Chaddad..... this post was written with a happy face and with love.